Head of The House

So today I decided to give the Bible Study a miss and attend the main service at our church (This is my time to eat; I believe I’ve given enough and its time to nourish my spiritual appetite). Rev. Ndebe from Scotts Theological College was preaching and guys in church had a laugh from his anecdotes of humor that he managed to mince with the Word of the day. (Mmh! Listening to gospel reggae does give me psyche to write this blog; I just love reggae especially this tune “Lion of Judah” by Christafari!). So here goes the sermon that he presented with some things that I’ve added as my thoughts:

One day he decided to take a quick research as he travelled along the road; just a simple observation while he was in the car. Along the roadway he noticed women involving themselves in various economic activities like roasting maize, mama mboga activities (selling veggies and fruits), selling clothing apparels and so forth. How about men? Majority were just gazing at the road counting cars or naming the various models that passed by or playing pool at the roadside social joints. Were there any men involved in any economic activities? Yes, there were, but few compared to the women.  Very, very few!

So what’s wrong with this picture? The Men, duh!

Men are the pivotal point of any society and should be ready to take the responsibility of being the head and support of the family basically like the roots (mizizi) of plants. Roots provide support, water and nutrients for the rest of the plant to flourish. They are located in the soil where it has to be tolerable to the conditions below such as darkness, pests, dirt and so forth. Thus they are the hardest part of a plant to remove with time and hence strong. But majority of men are not like that today. They’ve gone from hero to zero and thus there is a breakdown in society; degenerate vices are replacing godly values because the man has forgotten his role in bringing up a strong family. We should remember that the family is the most important unit in any society. It’s the most basic unit of a community and thus the community relies on it for survival.

For a man to have a successful family he first has to fear the Lord. He has to have a personal relationship with God. A commitment to God makes our other relationships with other people to be strong no matter the ups and downs. Obedience and trust in God leads to a holy family. And all this is supported by Psalm 128:

Blessed is every one that feareth the LORD; that walketh in his ways.

For thou shalt eat the labour of thine hands: happy shalt thou be, and it shall be well with thee.

Thy wife shall be as a fruitful vine by the sides of thine house: thy children like olive plants round about thy table.

Behold, that thus shall the man be blessed that feareth the LORD.

The LORD shall bless thee out of Zion: and thou shalt see the good of Jerusalem all the days of thy life.

Yea, thou shalt see thy children’s children, and peace upon Israel.

So the above shows three roles of men in a godly family setting:

A man should be the Bread Winner (vs. 2):

The verse tells us that his labour shall be fruitful. Basically God will bless the work of his hands if he takes the responsibility of taking care of his family. There are situations where one may lose his job or only source of income. But that does not mean you give up but be persistent and have faith even as you try to look for a job to feed your family. God is faithful and when we take the first step he moves closer (James 2:14-26 and 4:8). He who obeys God fears him. But sin in our lives is a like a veil that hides our face from God. And God is ready to forgive us if we confess and repent. (Psalm 59)

A man should give support to his wife:

In verse 3 the wife is compared to the vine. A vine is a creeper i.e. needs support. For example the passion fruit plant is a creeper plant and needs support for it to flourish. Wives need support from the husband in order for them (wives) to be fruitful. Many women are looking for freedom because their husbands seize to be supportive e.g. having other intimate and sexual relationships outside marriage, being selfish and taking of your own needs etc. Marriage is a mutual understanding where it’s a two way thing (Eph 5:21, 22, 25, 28)

A man should be a role model to his children:

In verse 3 again, part b, the children are compared to olive plants. Olive trees were the most important trees in ancient Israel. The oil from the fruits was used for lighting (Exodus 27:20) and the anointing of Kings. The olive trees were cut down when they became old but the stump was left. And from the stump new shoots developed. Hence, the special importance of an olive plant.

Children are a blessing from God and if their father is one who fears the Lord, eventually that they’ll be a light unto society, people of noble deeds and moral standing.

The main reason why families are crumbling is because there are few or no God fearing men to show good example. As a result many young guys fear getting into committed relationships or even marriage. A man has the mandate to guide his children in the right direction. Children, be it your own, your cousins, those at church or those who are neighbours in your estate emulate the behavior of adults.

In conclusion, this message caught my interest and I just wanted to share it with those especially who are young and not yet married or are gearing for marriage because our society is in dire need of salvation. And if you are married it’s also for you, but mostly for you men, my fellow brothers. Peace!!!

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